Heaven bound Father Day wishes to my father’s

It is easier for a father to have children than for children to have a real father. ~ Pope John XXIII I don't know about you but I think that as an adoptee often we naturally go in search of our birth moms and our dads kind of come later.  We likely do this because we associate our Birth Mothers as the ones that birthed us and gave us up.  And I've been in the adoption triad long enough to know that there are many scenarios regarding ones relinquishment but I am just talking in the sense of how...
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Mothers Day…my perspective.

There is no other gift as great as that of your mother.  To have a “present” mother and one that takes you on the journey of mother and daughter is what every girl deserves.  At times the woman who births you isn’t the same one that nurtures you, supports you, shows you your value…your worth and drives you to be the best you that you can be. Whether you are a biological, adoptive, step mother legal guardian or otherwise; if you are the female figure raising children it is through you that t...
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Happy Mother’s Day

One of the things I love most about what I do is meeting so many fabulous parents and getting to know so many moms and babes.  I have been so fortunate to meet many great moms along the way whether that be in my baby sign language classes, my workshops, through guest lecturing and/or working with those with barriers. Biological mom, foster mom, adoptive mom, legal guardian, Aunts....and any other woman who are the people who nurture, care and set an example for others ... Happy Mother's Day!...
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My life and perspective as an adoptee.

My hope would be that in blogging about this and opening up this part of my life that I can in some way help you or someone to understand that it's OK to hope, it's OK to wonder, it perfectly understandable to be angry and to deal with abandonment issues and on and on an on. I haven't posted for a bit about this and I'm not sure why.  I think in part it comes from having felt I was "the little secret" which even now as an adult some still hope to keep that way.  I do need to clarify though th...
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To be or not to be…told that is.

In my last post I spoke about  not recalling being told I was adopted and that it feels like I always just knew.  Someone recently emailed me and shared their story that this was not how it was for them and asked my opinion as to how is their parents didn't see fit to tell hem until much later in life.  Our conversation was along the lines of my saying..." I was one of the fortunate ones that was obviously told at a young age and didn't have the trauma that comes with learning later in life that...
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Feeling Nostalgic

I was transferring some old VHS tapes over to DVD this weekend…and yes I do know DVDs are on their way out to but it was a good “for now” fix.    In doing I took a nostalgic and moving journey. For those of you that don’t know, I am adopted and met my birth family late in life; or at least some of them.  I spent my adult life trying to locate them and when I did it was to find that my mother had passed of cancer not long before I surfaced.  Undoubtedly I was thrilled to have found the family ...
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