Back on track

Posted on November 22, 2014May 12, 2017 by TheUnspokenStruggle

This first post back I want to touch base about my recent pause from blogging and where I hope to go from here.. But before I do that I have to acknowledge that today is National Adoption Day. “National Adoption Day is a collective national effort to raise awareness of the more than 100,000 children in foster care waiting to find permanent, loving families “My adoptive parents are my parents. When writing I refer to them as “Adoptive” simply so that you may more easily follow the bouncing ball ...

Your story “will” heal…..

Posted on September 30, 2013November 15, 2017 by TheUnspokenStruggle

I start off with a heartfelt thank you to those of you reading this blog and to those who have had the courage to step forward and message me about the adoption-related posts. You have taken the time and energy to step out of your comfort in touching base with me and sharing your stories. I started adoption related postings; with the hopes that you may find even a small part of yourself here. I am touched to know as well that there are others out there who have connected with the post(s)...

The journey of self discovery

Posted on September 9, 2013January 9, 2017 by TheUnspokenStruggle

Please indulge me while I clarify that personally in my life do not refer to my parents as my “Adoptive parents”; they are my “parents”. I only use these terms throughout my posts so that you can follow the bouncing ball. ;) From here forward I will use A.D. for Adoptive Parents, B.P. for Birth Parents. I mentioned in a previous post that I do not recall a time that I did not know I was adopted, but this is worth repeating. I say this because over the years of doing adoption reunions there...

Heaven bound Father Day wishes to my father’s

Posted on June 16, 2013January 9, 2017 by TheUnspokenStruggle

It is easier for a father to have children than for children to have a real father. ~ Pope John XXIII I don't know about you but I think that as an adoptee often we naturally go in search of our birth moms and our dads kind of come later. We likely do this because we associate our Birth Mothers as the ones that birthed us and gave us up. And I've been in the adoption triad long enough to know that there are many scenarios regarding ones relinquishment but I am just talking in the sense of how...

Mothers Day…my perspective.

Posted on June 10, 2013June 10, 2013 by TheUnspokenStruggle

There is no other gift as great as that of your mother. To have a “present” mother and one that takes you on the journey of mother and daughter is what every girl deserves. At times the woman who births you isn’t the same one that nurtures you, supports you, shows you your value…your worth and drives you to be the best you that you can be. Whether you are a biological, adoptive, step mother legal guardian or otherwise; if you are the female figure raising children it is through you that t...

Happy Mother’s Day

Posted on May 12, 2013May 10, 2015 by TheUnspokenStruggle

One of the things I love most about what I do is meeting so many fabulous parents and getting to know so many moms and babes. I have been so fortunate to meet many great moms along the way whether that be in my baby sign language classes, my workshops, through guest lecturing and/or working with those with barriers. Biological mom, foster mom, adoptive mom, legal guardian, Aunts....and any other woman who are the people who nurture, care and set an example for others ... Happy Mother's Day!...

My life and perspective as an adoptee.

Posted on May 5, 2013November 8, 2017 by TheUnspokenStruggle

My hope would be that in blogging about this and opening up this part of my life that I can in some way help you or someone to understand that it's OK to hope, it's OK to wonder, it perfectly understandable to be angry and to deal with abandonment issues and on and on an on. I haven't posted for a bit about this and I'm not sure why. I think in part it comes from having felt I was "the little secret" which even now as an adult some still hope to keep that way. I do need to clarify though th...

An adoptee’s journey

Posted on February 18, 2013November 15, 2017 by TheUnspokenStruggle

"An invisible red thread connects those who are destined to meet, regardless of time, place, or circumstance. The thread may stretch or tangled, but will never break." --An ancient Chinese belief" As you know last weeks post was initiated by a trip down memory lane while transferring over some old VHS tapes. Prior to that I had been giving thought to blogging about adoption in general, my adoption and the adoption triad as I know it. (The triad is a triangular symbol for the birth parent, ado...

Welcome to Char’s Jargon!

Posted on August 30, 2012May 11, 2017 by TheUnspokenStruggle

Welcome! Thanks for checking out my blog and I'm thrilled you did! Feel free to comment or just say hi anytime! In this blog you'll find musings about "all things mom" as well as life as I know it as an entrepreneur, sister, friend, foodie, genealogist and other things that may pertain to my life and likely yours. I decided to start blogging so that we can share our opinions and experiences. I hope that you feel free to jump in and give your input as well ask questions along the way. ...